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Myth: A really caring mother would never give up her child.
Fact: A mother who unselfishly creates an

adoption plan

doesn’t “give up” her child. Adoption is a caring and responsible process that is as natural and loving as parenting.
 
Myth: My child will hate me.
Fact: You gave your child the gift of life and put your child’s needs first. This will be explained to your child as he or she grows up.
 
Myth: Adoption is a reckless and irresponsible answer to an

unplanned pregnancy

.
Fact: You must be a strong and responsible person to choose adoption. Don’t feel guilty for

considering adoption

or think of parenting as your deserved consequence for your

unplanned pregnancy

.
 
Myth: Adopted children grow up with more problems than children who aren’t adopted.
Fact: Studies show that adopted children do as well or better than their non-adopted peers.
 
Myth: Nobody can love a child as much as a biological parent.
Fact: Even though biological parents hold tremendous love for their children, it’s not a matter of biology. An adoptive couple’s love for your child is the result of much effort and desire to be a parent. Adoptive parents realize how blessed they are, and their love and devotion to the child is very real.
 
Myth: I’ll never hear from my child again or know how they’re doing.
Fact: This was true in the past when all adoptions were closed and the child was taken from the birthmother immediately after delivery. Birth mothers had to live the rest of their lives wondering what became of her child. Today, you can create your own adoption plan, select and meet the adoptive parents, and choose to stay in touch while your child is growing up.
 
If you are pregnant and considering adoption, you can contact a pregnancy counselor 24 hours a day at 1-866-424-2974. Or, simply text 217.898.1158 or email Maria for adoption information and assistance.
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